Like the title of my blog says, focus on the positive when writing in a memory journal

I started a 5 year sentence journal the day after I was married. Since it is now over a year, when I write this year's entry, last year's is above to read.

I was excited for a year to come to read a non-digital memories, "last year on this date" type thing. I thought I had told myself to keep it positive, stuff I would want to remember, but evidently I made that decision a few months in.

It isn't venting or complaining, just describing it as it was, the trouble we had with some guests and issues with our photographer. But, now I don't want to read those entries, I don't want to be reminded of small details I blocked out.

I have memories a few months in of wanting to write how it was a blah day or I felt down, because that is what was on my mind that day, so I wanted to complain. But that I did refrain from, deciding it wasn't a journal to vent, but this was a memory book of the mundane I will enjoy recalling.

I wish I had realized that sooner in regards to post-wedding drama, but I guess that is all that was going on those first couple months I started my sentence journal. Part of me wants to cover it up, but I decided against that.

I hope as the 5 years go by, each year on those dates when I read past entries, those events will bother me that much less. Maybe it isn't such a bad thing after all; I will read how happier the subsequent years were, and it will be evident looking back how much I've grown since those early newlywed days. However, in the future, I am not going to record any more negative events I would rather forget.

First and foremost, in what is to become my daily mini memory book of the first five years of marriage, I will focus on the positive of each day, or at least the neutral, mundane, like we went to the store, I ate this, etc. In regards to not so happy entries at the start of the book, well, I just realized I will have to take the second part of my own blog's advice: develop from the negatives.

And that is all I can hope for during the less than 4 years I have left of my 5 year sentence journal.

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