Is It Others Who Think You Won't Succeed? Or Yourself?

I often wonder about people who continually post quotes and comments about how others put them down and how their success will one day show all of them. Now, I don't know their situation, maybe their life is filled with unsupportive people, but can there really be that many people constantly thinking about how they want said person to fail? Most people tend to be pretty self-absorbed in their own lives and their actions usually have little to do with anyone else. Which works the other way, too: people who are truly striving to achieve something are doing it for themselves and tend to be too busy working hard to care what other's opinions are of them, other than to have the time to even notice.

That being said, as these types of posts go on for months, it seems the poster is creating a competition where there may not even be one, or magnifying it nonetheless. With all this time and energy spent focusing on this alleged hatred of them, I question if their driving motivation has shifted from finding success in their chosen passion to proving they can succeed in order to rub it in the faces of whom they believe really cares.

But that aside, the psychologist in me is starting to wonder if the quote poster is in reality the one doubting themselves, thinking that they won't succeed. These cliché Internet quotes they supposedly post in reference to those wishing they would fail would be better served if they read them to their voice of doubt inside and heeded the advice themselves!

The takeaway: If you really want something in this life, do it for you. Don't devout your precious time to showing up anyone not supportive. They may not care about your place in this world as much as you think, but even if they do, focusing your energy on things that will move you forward will better serve you.

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