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That Moment When Hope Is Officially Gone Is Followed by That Moment When You Got This

That moment when you realize things are the way they are because people hold on to misconceptions from the past. When you officially know relationships can never improve because a toxic person is still controlling someone's beliefs over proven reality.

That moment when you realize some people would rather hold onto pride and being right than friends or family. When you acknowledge that they throw relationship after relationship away by never trying to truly understand, always believing something is wrong with the other person & never once taking accountability for their own actions.

That moment when hope is all gone. When you finally know you were right all along, even though you wished you had it wrong. 
 
That's a sad moment. 



Because you try to move on from the past, offer forgiveness, even give a second chance.  You can acknowledge your own mistakes, desiring a mended relationship, almost whatever it takes.  So, it's difficult to accept other people aren't as caring of others as you, nor even as psychologically-healthy as you have worked to become. 

Again, I remind you the problem is THEIRS not yours. It's not up to you to fix their mental health issues. Don't let them get in your head again, leaving you to second guess yourself once more. Learn from the past.  Forget trying to make them understand and correcting their thinking distortions. It's pointless; you will never do it and only upset yourself.  They won't change until they decide on their own to seek professional help. 

You win by not letting them anger you and not giving in to their skewed reality again, nor letting them change your mind this time. They are hoping to guilt you into doing what they want you to do, because they know you are that type of person who wants to please others – or perhaps, a person who hates fueled tensions and will always be the one to give in just to discharge the situation. 

They already know this about you, so there is no denying it, no more trying to hide it; they will take advantage of your good heart to try to get what they want. The sad thing is, they are such experts at manipulating that even the wisest, most observant, and psychologically-healthy person will miss recognizing their tactics and risk falling into their trap. 

REMEMBER: You are not a bad person for standing your ground and having a different opinion. NEVER LET ANYONE CONVINCE YOU THAT YOU ARE – especially when it is for not doing what someone has ordered you to do or not following somebody else's personal belief system.  It is NOT wrong to think for yourself!  


If this is somebody you can cut out of your life, sadly, it may be time to move on. Ask yourself if your own mental health and emotional well-being are worth this toxic relationship.  If you can't cut them out of your life completely, work on ways to limit your exposure and minimize their control.  Learn to recognize when they are trying to overrule you, and accept it is not just okay to walk away when they start laying into you, but it can actually be the best method of dealing with the toxic people in your life!

That moment when you realize their opinion holds no value and you finally believe that you have done nothing wrong. When you know you are growing stronger and worrying less about what others think of you. 
That moment when you got this. 
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