Don't Let Unhappy People Ruin the Happiness You Worked So Hard For!

Why Won't You Be Happy For me?

I was in a really good mood one day last week after I came across a note from over 4 years ago that mentioned something I recently did, which I didn't even remember I wanted to do for so long! This led me to reflect on recent accomplishments and my increased happiness of late.

However, shortly after, I ran into someone who made a very nasty and inappropriate comment to me. It seems to be a trend with this contact, so I theorized that he did this because he could sense my great happiness, almost like this person does not want me to be happy.

Why do certain people act like this?

I think one reason lies with people who want to control others; they expect everyone to live their lives according to their personal rules. These people want you to be happy only in the way they believe that you should be happy. In my case, I think this person will never be happy for me when I am in good spirits because my happiness does not evolve out of things he thinks I should do. Basically, in my opinion, it is that I am not living my life the way that he thinks I should, so I don't deserve to be happy.

In my experience with other people though, maybe even this person too, they are just unhappy people themselves, so they don't want anybody to be happy. When these people sense happiness, they go into extra negative, or even manipulation, mode to destroy it.

What Can We Do Realistically With Unhappy People?

I'm sure you have read articles that say you should cut people like this out of your life — but realistically, we know that's not always possible. Most of us are stuck learning how to deal with their negative intentions.

So, I wrote this note the next morning to remind myself not to be bothered by this person's — or anybody else's — cruel comments. It's a good reminder for us all, so I opted to share this personal story here, too, with the hope it might inspire another who needs to hear this today!

REMINDER:

Let unhappy people stay in their darkroom, while you keep developing into the light. And if they do succeed in darkening your day, just let it go, and remember: the light of dawn is always less than a day away!

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