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I Love Sincerity and Honesty; But Kindness and Respect Are Very Important

 

Often times, withholding your whole opinion from a friend or child to not hurt their feelings is kind; just as being amicable to people you don't know or care for is respectful. These are different than being intentionally misleading, like feigning greater feelings than you really have for a potential significant other, as well as being untruthful, like outwardly boasting about someone's talents or looks when you really feel they are lacking in that department.

Perhaps some people prefer to be misled and always want to be told what they want to hear. Myself, I prefer genuineness. This isn't to say I want others to be cruel to me or brutally honest about their every thought about me at all times (please don't!), but there's always the option of saying nothing at all. Just be authentic. If someone doesn't ask for your honest opinion, you have no reason to fib about how you feel — unless you are trying to get on their good side or wanting something from them, which we all can recognize is also dishonest and insincere, taking us right back to where we started!

Remember, you can be real and still show kindness and respect to friends, acquaintances, and even strangers. Being "real" and honest does not equate to being rude and hurtful. Thus, being passive and not vocalizing your every single opinion about every single topic does not label you as dishonest or fake. However, aggressively handing out faux opinions and mistruths just might, especially if it's excessive and/or given for personal gain!

I think it's important to just always aim at being genuine — while still considering the beneficiary of your intentions. The world has enough fake and coercive people already; please don't become another!

 

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