Focus on the Positive...but Develop from the Negatives

  I had to think about the second part of this one a bit, but I do concur. \   Haters tend to hate people they feel intimated or threatened by, in competition with, or envious of. Usually, there is no real reason for their hatred, other than those people are different than them; whether in looks, personality, interests, or any other qualities. In acknowledging that, if people are hating on someone who tries to be kind and respectful to all, somebody truly altruistic in their helping of others, it is fairly safe to conclude the haters lack some — or all — of those genuine qualities in themselves. Therefore, the good person is being hated by the "right" people in that they are hated simply because they are not hateful like the haters, nor would they ever want to be filled with hatred like them in exchange for their not being hated! This not only reveals the haters for whom they really are, but also confirms the good person the "hatee" is. Thus, in this case, it is ac

View this post on Instagram A post shared by The Darkest Hour Comes Just Before Dawn (@darkroombeforedawn)   Often times, withholding your whole opinion from a friend or child to not hurt their feelings is kind; just as being amicable to people you don't know or care for is respectful. These are different than being intentionally misleading, like feigning greater feelings than you really have for a potential significant other, as well as being untruthful, like outwardly boasting about someone's talents or looks when you really feel they are lacking in that department. Perhaps some people prefer to be misled and always want to be told what they want to hear. Myself, I prefer genuineness. This isn't to say I want others to be cruel to me or brutally honest about their every thought about me at all times (please don't!), but there's always the option of saying nothing at all. Just be authentic. If someone doesn't ask for your honest opini